Steam coming from my ears!

We've been having a few 'concerns' with the day care centre recently.  Just found out that they have never been putting any nappy barrier cream on Mia when they change her nappy!  They said that if we didn't leave any cream in the draw with the nappies then they didn't put any on. I could not believe it.  They never once communicated that with me.  My understanding was that if we wanted any 'different' cream putting on, then we should be leaving it in the draw with the nappies.  

I'm so annoyed with them.  I wonder how many other children at the nursery don't have any cream put on either.  I have never heard of such a thing.  All babies have barrier cream put on, I have never spoken to anyone who doesn't put it on.  So we have been leaving cream for them to use on Mia for the past week, but Mia came home in a boys nappy the other day - so obviously they weren't using her cream or her nappies at that time!

I am having a chat with the centre director tonight.  I have other concerns as well because there seems to be a lot of casual staff recently.  We don't get introduced to them, they don't speak to us and more importantly they don't know Mia.  So I am worried that the standard of care has gone down.  We both went to pick Mia up early last week.  We could hear her crying from outside and she was still crying by the time we got to the gate.  She was sat on the floor with her arms outstretched wanting to be picked up.  I'm not sure what had happened, maybe she had fallen over or had been pushed.  But anyway, one of the 'new casuals' only started to make a move to pick Mia up once she noticed that there were parents (us) trying to get in through the gate.  It was heartbreaking to see Mia on the floor and no one doing anything about it.  I just picked her up and left as quickly as we had arrived.  I was fuming and felt too emotional to say anything calmly to them.  Mia cried all the way home.

They still can't get her nap times right either.  She only had 45 mins sleep in the morning yesterday, so consequently Mia was extremely tired again.   

Anyway, hopefully we'll sort it all out.  I'll probably start to look for somewhere else for Mia to go unless they can get staff who are more permanent.

Mia's vocabulary is really coming on.  She was saying 'paint' yesterday.  And loves 'juice', she says it all the time.  We've had to put a lock on the fridge door as she was starting to pull out the milk and orange cartons, as well as a myriad of food items.

At the weekend, we bought her a little "Dora the Explorer" sofa.  She loves it and sits on it with her teddies and dolls.  She is really interacting with them a lot.   She gives them cuddles, feeds them food, tries to put a dummy in their mouth and gives them her drinks as well.  It's hilarious.

All good manners

Mia can now say 'tissue,' 'thank  you' and 'please'.   She says tissue very clearly, the other two words are not quite so clear but it's definitely a please and thank you.

I've uploaded the photos from when Grandma and Grandad came to visit us on Picasa, so click on the link on the right of the page.

Mia news from the last month

Sorry for the lack of any updates!  I have been so busy recently I just have not had time to update you with the adventures of Mia.

Right, well I’ll start at the beginning and try and bring you all up to date with everything.

Well, no doubt you all ready know about the febrile seizure incident that happened on 22^nd June.  Basically she had a bit of temperature the day before whilst we were at Balmoral Beach with Grandma and Grandad but it only seemed to last about an hour. We took her to the doctors anyway as we were a bit worried.  But whilst she was there, see seemed to go back to her normal happy self, playing with the toys in the doctors waiting room.  The doctor checked her over, and said her temperature was fine.  I mentioned to her about the recent ear infection she had had and that she might be getting an eye infection (there had just been a bout of conjunctivitis at daycare in the week), so the doctor gave me a prescription for some eye drops, but told me not to get them yet – only when and if an eye infection develops.

Then the next day, 22^nd June, we were having a late lunch in Kirribilli and she started to shiver.  I had never seen her shiver before, so we were a bit worried and tried to warm her up.  She just didn’t seem right though.  I thought her lips looked slightly purplish – but I suppose you get that when you are cold.  She fell asleep in the car on the way home and seemed quite lethargic, so I put her down in her cot when we got home.  She went off to sleep for a little while but then didn’t seem to settle, so I brought her into our room and lay down with her on our bed.  I put the heating on meanwhile as I thought it was a bit cold. She went back off to sleep. 

About 10 or 15 minutes later, I sat up and moved some of the quilt next to her back to prop her up, and to make sure she didn’t roll off the bed.  I was just staring at her when all of a sudden she started fitting.  I screamed for Damien and picked Mia up and tried to sort of stop her as I didn’t realise she was fitting at the time.  Her eyes were rolling around the top of her head and suddenly her lips went blue.   I think Sue came in at this point.  Mia seemed to be losing consciousness and I really thought she was dying.  It was horrific.  I felt for her heart to see if it was beating and by this time, Damien had called for an ambulance and was getting advice from the person in the call centre.  I think I even tried to give her CPR at some point, but somewhere in the back of my head I think I remember reading that you aren’t supposed to press too hard on a babies chest and to only use two fingers. 

We were told to cool Mia down, so I took off her socks and her top and I put her in the recovery position as by this point, she had stopped fitting and had started to moan a bit.  She was really sleepy and I think she must have been very frightened.  We all calmed down a bit and the ambulance arrived quite shortly after that.  They gave Mia a little oxygen mask and we were taken out to the ambulance and taken to the Royal North Shore Hospital. All in all it was a very frightening experience.

Mia started to come back to her normal self when we had been at the hospital for a few hours.  The nurses in the A&E ward took her temperature constantly and Mia was put on an intravenous drip but it took four attempts to get the canula in.  So poor little Mia had bruises from the needle attempts on both her hands and on the inside of her elbows.  She was falling asleep by this point as it was about 10 or 11pm.  So she didn’t cry too much.  They also did an x-ray of her lungs and then it was discovered that she had quite a bad chest infection.  So they admitted her to hospital overnight.

We didn’t get up to the children’s ward until gone midnight.  It was dark and everything was very quiet.  We were led to a dark room at the end of a corridor where a little cot was in the room in place of a hospital bed.  We had the room to ourselves thank god.  The nurse gave Mia some antibiotics and we were left to it.  Only one parent was allowed to stay the night with Mia, so I slept on a squeaky sofa bed next to her and Damien had to go home.  I don’t think either Damien or I slept that night.

Monday 23^rd June

Mia woke up early the next day and seemed really hungry, so I called for the nurse and asked her for some weetbix for Mia.  Mia wolfed it down.  Then the hospital breakfast came and Mia had that as well but obviously they only provide food for the patient, so I had nothing to eat, actually I think I had a few bites of Mia’s bread roll with jam – I’m sure she didn’t mind!!

I was due to start work that day, so I had to call up and explain to them what had happened and that I wouldn’t be coming in today.  They were very understanding about it all.

Damien arrived at the hospital quite early bringing some food and drinks with him.  We still needed to get a urine sample from Mia, so she had to be nappyless whilst we waited for her to have a wee (and me catch it in a pot!!) but at about 9am “In the Night Garden” came on the television and Mia was soo excited she rushed to the end of the cot and had a poo all over the bed!  Great. 

We waited for the doctor to come and see us.  He checked Mia over and said that we would have to stay in for another night and that they were just waiting on a few test results etc.  In the meantime, she was to be given antibiotics every 5 hours.  They didn’t know if Mia was contagious so some woman brought Mia some toys as I don’t think we were allowed out of the room.  So we stayed in there all day. 

Then I think they must have decided that Mia wasn’t contagious as some little boy and his mum was put in the same room as us at just before 7pm.  I was trying to get Mia to sleep and it was extremely difficult as there was all this noise going on.  She eventually went to sleep and I went to bed too.

Tuesday 24^th June

After another night of hardly any sleep for me, Mia woke up at about 7am.  I took her out of the room and up to the playroom at the end of the corridor so as not to disturb the little boy in our room.  I chatted to the other mums in there about what had happened to their kids whilst we waited for breakfast to be delivered. There seemed to be a lot of kids who had had febrile seizures and I overheard a doctor saying something about last year loads of kids had flu but this year loads of kids had had really high temperatures.  It appears that febrile seizures are quite common and there is no long term lasting damage from them.

Breakfast arrived and so did the doctors a little while later.  He told us we could go home at 5pm that day.  So for the rest of the day we just played with the other children in the playroom and in the outside area.  They had little wendy houses for the kids to play in and Mia absolutely loved them.  So when we have the outdoor space we will get her a little house to play in.  I went out of the children’s ward for the first time today and went to get me and Damien something to eat and drink.  I had no clue where I was though, as I had not been out of the ward since Sunday, let alone outside.

Since then, things have settled down.  Mia has been fine and is back at day care and I have started my new job.

The girls at the day care centre were really worried about Mia and had missed her.  One of them even told me that Mia was her favourite and had been a bit upset about hearing of her being in hospital.

We enjoyed the rest of the time that Grandma and Grandad were over visiting us.  We spent a couple of nights in the Hunter Valley whilst they were here and Mia enjoyed playing with some ducks at one winery.  We did all the usual tourist things, although I had to work for most of the time they were here, so Damien was the hostess with the mostess.

I noticed last week, whilst I was tickling Mia, that she now has another tooth.  So that makes 13, only seven more to go.  Mia has also just had an eye infection that she picked up from the day care!  So we’ve had to try and attempt to administer eye drops.  Not an easy task with a wriggling toddler who doesn’t want the eye drops anywhere near her!

Mia is also talking a lot more and a lot clearer.  She shouts for Daddy when she wants him to see something.  She said woof woof yesterday when she saw a dog.  She is just learning new words all the time and constantly amazes us with how much she actually understands.  She can say Granny, Grandma and Grandad - although not always very clear but I understand what she is trying to say.  When I asked her "Where's Mia?" the other day in the bath, she pointed to herself.  She even managed to put her own shoe on yesterday.  Also she knows where her nose, mouth, ears, eyes, knees, toes, head, belly, elbow and feet are!  She points to them all when you ask her where they are.  She is becoming more prolific in throwing her spoons on the floor though when she is eating.  We just can't get her to stop this.  I can't think of anything else new that she has done recently but I'm sure I'll let you know when I do!!

Mia getting better

Mia is back at day care today after having a day off yesterday.  She had developed a rash on Sunday that appeared on her chest, back and a little bit on her face.  We were worried and I took her to the doctors yesterday morning.  The doctor seemed to think that the rash was a side effect of the medication she was taking and told me to keep her off day care just to keep an eye on her. Mia actually said bye bye to the doctor today.  It's so funny hearing her little voice. 

Mia seemed her normal self but a bit more of a handful today.  Maybe she was bored and wanted to play with all the other kids at day care??  I gave her a proper kids meal today, fish shapes (bit like fish fingers) and beans.  She loves beans.  Oh and she has developed a new sign herself for the word 'please'.  When me or Damien say "say please" she puts her fist up to her chin.  Not sure where that has come from, but her little signs are always a variation on something I have done in the past.  It doesn't matter what the sign is, as long as she understands it and can communicate with Mummy and Daddy.

I start work on 23rd June!!  I can't believe I have had 17 months off on maternity leave - it will be such a shock to me to go back to work.  I will be working shifts, mainly day and really early morning shifts, so hopefully it will work out with Mia.  We will just have to see how it all goes and how we all adapt to it.  

We're getting excited this week as Gran and Grandad are coming over to visit us!  Can't believe we haven't seen them since October.  It doesn't feel that long because we see them quite regularly on Skype but of course it's not the same as in person is it?  They will be getting lots and lots of sloppy kisses from Mia and plenty of hugs and cuddles.  Mia is getting into hugs I think.  She came up to me yesterday and sort of fell into my arms - I think she was trying to give me a big cuddle.

Bye bye

Mia said Bye Bye for the first time today.  She is also getting over her ear infection that had been troubling her last week.  Her temperature at one stage was 38.9, which is extremely high for a toddler and very worrying.  She felt really hot and all she wanted to do was flop her head onto my shoulder and try and sleep.  Thankfully it was nothing more serious than an ear infection and should be completely gone within a few days.  Her medicine is apparently raspberry flavoured and she absolutely loves it - always asking for more!!

Pass the salt!

We have now bought Mia a little table and chair for her to sit at instead of putting her in the highchair.  She doesn't sit at a highchair at nursery so we thought we would try a table and chair at home as well and see how we get on.  So far she seems to really like it and she hasn't thrown as much food or as many spoons over the side onto the floor.  So at least for me, it is a lot less mess to clean up after mealtimes.  She does get up and wander around the kitchen sometimes though in between courses, but that's fine as she only wanders over to the fridge or cupboard to point at the food that she wants!!  Usually yoghurts, grapes or cookies.

At nursery they are learning more about animals and noises and sing songs every day.  The current favourite is 'Twinkle Twinkle Little Star' but they do like to sing 'The Wheels on the Bus go Round and Round' as well.  

Mia has started to say the word "shoe" and see can say her name as well. She understands far more words though - here's a little list of them:

Elephant; Giraffe; Monkey; Puppy; Shoes; Coat; wipe your nose/mouth/hands; nappy change; brush your teeth; sit down; drink your water/milk; give to mummy/daddy; can mummy/daddy have a kiss; spoon in (makes her eat); more; eat; breakfast; dinner; pushchair; dog; bird; cat; iggle piggle & upsy daisy; mouse; 

When asked what noise does a sheep make - she answers Baa!  And does various signs for different words.

Maracas Heaven

Tooth number 11 has made an appearance

Mia now has her third molar coming through. It must have been causing her a bit of pain last night as she just wouldn't settle and again it was like someone had left the tap on in her mouth! Her top AND vest underneath were soaking and she just point blank refuses to let us change her nappy.  

Mia has had her last day at the nursery that we didn't like, they said they were sorry to see her go because she has been wonderful to look after. There was a little boy at that nursery who just wouldn't leave Mia alone, everywhere she went he followed her apparently.  They cuddled a few times but the carers told me that most of the time Mia just tried to swipe him away!!?  Would loved to have seen all that going on.  

A couple of times this past week, we've gone in to check on Mia whilst she is sleeping and she has managed to get one of her arms out of her pyjamas and then gone back to sleep!  Very odd.  I think she likes undressing but sometimes not so keen on dressing again.  But she loves to put on her coat and shoes.  She really helps me to dress her - well... when she is in the mood for it!

It's mother's day this sunday, so will wait and see what Mia has planned for me!

Five days at one nursery

The good news is that we have been offered that vital fifth day at the day care centre that we prefer so from the start of 12th May, Mia will be going to one nursery for five days a week.  What a relief.  We are pretty happy about that because now she can just get used to the carers and children at one place and stay settled.  

The other place is really beginning to get on our nerves now.  Mia comes home smelling of the place - it's awful.  They still can't get her to eat her lunch and she always seems to come home tired because she has not had much of a sleep there.  They don't fill in the report sheets in Mia's book either, so I never know exactly when she has slept and what she has ate.  I do ask them when I pick her up, but I would like it written down so I can remember as they don't always verbally tell me the times she has slept or ate.  So sometimes she is not hungry for her tea at 5pm, which is frustrating or she is really really tired and we have to put her to bed early, which invariably means, she wakes up early and is really hungry, thereby messing the next day up again!  Anyway, that experience will soon be over. 

Mia has got some lovely new clothes sent to her by her Great Auntie Jan - they are gorgeous.  A lovely pink and brown tracksuit, so here's a little picture of her in it.  

Catching up

Sorry, I've just not had the time to update this for a little while. 

Mia is now quite settled into her nursery routine.  She settled quicker into nursery #2 (the one I originally liked) so we have decided to concentrate on getting her into this place full time.  We have been offered another two days there, so she is now going to go to this one on Mondays, Wednesdays, Thursdays and Fridays.  I told the other nursery we would no longer be requiring Mia to attend on a Wednesday anymore, just need the Tuesday, for now.  So fingers crossed a free Tuesday will come up at nursery #2 and she will be able to go there full time.  

We both agreed that this nursery is the nicest, there is more room, feels bright and airy, they do many more stimulating and developmental activities with the children as well.  Also the outdoor area is just for the children under 2, unlike the other place where the older kids who were running around kept knocking the younger kids over.  It's not fair on all of them as the older kids were getting told off and all they wanted to do was play and run around.

The carers seem to have 'got' Mia a lot quicker as well.  Mia won't sit in a highchair at nursery so they let her sit on a small chair at a small table with the older kids to have her lunch!  They think she is quite advanced for her age.  Of course she is!  She was actually eating at this place a lot sooner, she is still not really eating her lunch at the other nursery, so not sure what they are doing with her there.  Also at the other place they don't have any tables and chairs for her age, so she has to go in a highchair.

Mia doesn't really cry that much when I drop her off now and they tell me that she really enjoys herself when she is there.  The carers seem to really like her.  

So I have just been job hunting whilst she has been at nursery.  I've seen a few things that have interested me, so keep your fingers crossed.  At least I have managed to update my CV now and finally have a hair cut.  I've had it all chopped off and my hair is very short now.  Loving it.

We also finally have tenants in our place in London.  They moved in on 16th April and from all accounts it all went quite smoothly.  About time too. 

Oh and Mia now has 10 teeth!  Another molar appeared last week and has grown quite big really quickly.

Oh so quiet

My mum and brother have now left Sydney and have arrived back home in the UK.  When we got back from dropping them off at the airport it felt so quiet at home.  Even getting up the next day, it was really quiet.  Little Mia wasn't able to jump on Uncle Dan's bed in the morning.

Here is a selection of photos of when they were over there.  Click on link below.

Family visit to Sydney

Damien came with me this morning to drop Mia off at nursery no.2.  She started to get a bit upset as soon as we went into the place.  She is getting better though.  When I went to pick her up last week from nursery no.1, they said she had eaten some food and even seemed to enjoy it.  She wasn't as upset and kept pointing to go and play outside.  So hopefully she will soon settle down.

Here's a little video of Mia messing around in the bath and putting on silly smiles for Granny who was filming her.

First day at Nursery #2

Took Mia to nursery #2 today and she burst into tears as soon as I tried to leave.  It was heartbreaking but by the time I had dropped the pushchair off upstairs near the office and had come back down, she wasn't really crying.  One of the carers had taken her off to change her nappy and was singing to Mia to distract her. 

I rang the nursery at just after noon to see how she was getting on and apparently she had only eaten 4 spoonfuls of lunch, had only a 10 minute sleep in the morning (she normally has at least an hour) and wasn't really drinking her milk.  They didn't seem worried though, telling me that it is all normal etc.  I picked up her at 2.30pm and they said she had done really well and had not really cried but obviously was upset most of the day on and off, in between playing with new toys and the other kids.  

When I got there, she was having her nappy changed again and it took a couple of seconds before she realised it was her mummy coming to collect her and then when she did, her bottom lip went and she got a little bit upset.  Poor thing seemed quite relieved I had come for her.  

Mia was perfectly happy on the way home though, playing peek-a-boo with me from the pushchair as we walked home and seemed her normal self when we got home.  Not the clingy Mia we had had last week.  She went straight off to sleep tonight wearing her new pyjamas.

Photos of Mia aged 12 months

Pictures of Mia aged 12 months

Please click on link above to see photos.  I have added link to the list on the right hand side column with the rest of the pictures.

Second day at Nursery #1

I dropped Mia off at 9am again.  I had a chat with the director and she just said it is quite common for toddlers to refuse to eat in a new environment, as it's so different to what they are used to.  

Mia was fine all the way to the nursery, we were singing on the way there. Even when we got inside, she was fine.  She went off to play with some of the toys and point at the other children quite happily whilst I signed her in and got her nappies, cup and hat out ready for the carers.

There was a new carer today who I'd not seen before, she seemed nice enough and paid special attention to Mia because it was her second day.  I left a note with the carers with a list of things about Mia to help them, to help her, to settle her in.  Just things such as nap times, what she understands, notes telling them she can feed herself etc etc.  Just in case they forget this time.  These are all the things that should probably have been discussed at the orientation day but they didn't ask me anything like that.

Anyway, when it came for me to say bye to Mia, she started crying and trying to grab me so that I would pick her up.  The other carer held her and tried to distract her with some toys as I left.  It was tough.  I obviously wanted to go back in and comfort her but once you have said goodbye it is best to go, as it gets confusing for them later on when they don't know if you are going or staying. 

I've just rang them to see how Mia is getting on and apparently, she has only taken a few sips of her milk, didn't really eat her fruit this morning - in fact she spat it out and has not really eaten her lunch again.  They said not to worry but I said that I'll come down at 2pm again to collect her.  I don't think she should be having long days there at first, not until she is feeling more settled I suppose.

Mia's first day at Nursery #1

Well, it was a tough day for us all today.  I dropped Mia off at the nursery at 9am and she seemed fine at first.  I got a bit emotional as I was leaving but Mia didn't cry.  She was stood in the middle of the room, with the other kids stood looking at her.  

I got myself a coffee and came home and tried to relax.  The nursery called me at about 11:30 am to say that Mia was doing really well, had had an hour sleep in the morning and had not really cried much.  But she had refused her milk, refused her plate of fruit and was now refusing to eat her lunch.  I gave them a few tips on what to do but they called me back about 20 minutes later to say that I should come down as they were worried because she had not eaten anything and not really had much to drink either.  

I got there and Mia had her dummy in and was being held by one of the carers outside, waiting for me and looking at the trees.  We went inside and I put her in the highchair and started to feed her.  She was fine, I fed her a couple of spoonfuls then gave her the spoon and she fed herself the rest, in fact she had two meals, the pureed stuff and the proper food.  Then I couldn't find her water cup and realised the carers had left it in the bag.  So not sure what they had been giving her her water in.  

Then the carer said to Mia "Oh I didn't realise you could feed yourself." So maybe she had been trying to feed Mia and of course, Mia wouldn't have liked this and probably would have refused the food.  It's also because it is all new to her and I suppose refusing to eat is the only thing she is in control of at the moment.  The carer kept going on about Mia not having her milk either and she asked if she had it warm.  Mia just drinks milk in her cup straight from the fridge, she's not fussy.  Then I realised that I think they had been trying to give her milk from a bottle.  I had told them she drinks from a cup but they had obviously forgotten.  

Mia ate her banana and then it was decided that I would leave again and come back at 2pm.  This time Mia cried when I left.  I just went to the top of the road and grabbed a coffee and a slice of banana bread to wait the 45 minutes before it was time for me to collect her again.

I got there at 2pm and she was in the office with one of the carers with a dummy in and away from the other children.  She'd been a bit upset again. We left and she slept in the pushchair all the way home and stayed asleep until 3:30pm.

I had been told by other people that some children refuse to eat in their first few days at nursery, but I hadn't thought that Mia would do that, as she loves her food so much!